As you start getting further into your second trimester (for a post on what to expect your second trimester go HERE.) you’ll start to see the numbers on your scale rising. Your baby grows a ton during the second trimester and so do you!
You should be starting to feel better and your appetite is probably starting to take off, hopefully! This is a WONDERFUL thing, so don’t let yourself or anyone else for that matter let you think otherwise!
Weight gain is hard for anyone and this isn’t gradual, it’s fast weight gain and that can sometimes make you feel pretty crappy. It’s hard to not let yourself get sucked into the emotional trap of weight gain during pregnancy, but you have to keep reminding yourself this weight gain isn’t due to you doing this to yourself, it’s because you’re making a tiny human and a lot of it is out of your control.
Of course, if you go crazy on milk shakes, French fries, twinkies and who knows what else, then YES, your weight gain will be significant. If you’re eating the way you did before and trying to be even more aware of eating healthier for you and your baby now, then you can help control your weight gain a little bit better.
Your appetite isn’t the same as it was before you got pregnant. You’re going to be a lot hungrier and you do need to eat more because your body is burning a lot of calories making this tiny human. The saying, “You’re eating for two” isn’t really accurate in this situation though.
HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU GAIN
- If you were an average weight for your height before getting pregnant than you should only gain 25-35 pounds.
- If you were under-weight for your height before getting pregnant than you should gain 28-40 pounds.
- If you were overweight for your height before getting pregnant than you should gain 15-25 pounds.
If you want to calculate your weight gain go HERE
WHAT ARE YOU ACTUALLY GAINING
- 7 ½ pounds is about how much the baby will weigh by the end of your pregnancy
- 1 ½ pounds is how much the placenta weighs
- 4 pounds is your increase in fluid volume
- 2 pounds is how much your uterus weighs
- 2 pounds is the weight of breast tissue
- 4 pounds is your increase in blood volume
- 7 pounds is from fat, protein, and other nutrients that is stored
- 2 pounds is from the amniotic fluid
- That’s a total of 30 pounds
HOW MANY CALORIES SHOULD YOU BE EATING
- Normal-weight pregnant women should intake about 1,800 calories per day during the first trimester
- About 2,200 calories per day during the second trimester
- About 2,400 calories per day during the third trimester
These are just numbers and this varies per person. I truly believe that some women no matter what they do they can’t help but gain a lot during pregnancy or vice versa. I know plenty of women who eat horrible during their pregnancies and don’t gain a lot of weight.
Every-body is different. Every-body reacts differently to pregnancy. I have a lot of friends who eat so healthy and exercise during their pregnancies and were a normal weight for their height before getting pregnant and they always gain 65-80 pounds during pregnancy.
I also have a lot of friends who eat healthy with a mix of not eating healthy who only gain 10-20 pounds during pregnancy.
I am a mix of this. My first pregnancy I only gained 18 pounds. My second I gained 28 pounds. My twins I only gained 12 pounds. 12 pounds people and that was with twins!
EVERYONE is different, every PREGNANCY is DIFFERENT! Try not to compare yourself to others or your other pregnancies. I know it’s hard, but it’ll only discourage you more. Just do your best to eat healthy and don’t worry about the numbers on the scale.
One thing I absolutely loved about my doctor was she never said one word to me during my pregnancies about my weight gain. NOT ONE WORD! I really appreciated that.
Now, for other people not so much! People would make comments either way whether they were saying I wasn’t gaining enough or I needed to be careful and not gain too much and that was just them looking at me and not seeing the numbers on the scale.
I got so many comments when I was pregnant with my twins about how big I was going to get and then as I was getting bigger how big I was. It was not fun to hear, and it really did bother me.
I didn’t like it when other people who were due around the same time as me would compare their belly to mine, especially when I was pregnant with my twins, because I was pregnant with two and they were only pregnant with one.
It went both ways for me when people would compare, they were either saying, “you’re so tiny, I’m a whale next to you,” or, “wow you’ve really popped, you look so uncomfortable, I’m sorry.” That was them putting it nicely.
Either way whether they were saying I was small or big it made me feel bad and uncomfortable, what do you say to comments like that?
We need to try and be respectful and aware of how people would feel when things like this are said.
Another thing that is really important to remember is doctors don’t always know best. I have had multiple friends have medical issues because their doctors were concerned about them gaining too much or too little.
For example, one of my friends was gaining weight fairly quickly during her pregnancy and her doctor advised her to go on a diet and to exercise regularly because she was concerned, there were no medical issues occurring during this time she was simply just concerned about her weight gain.
My friend did as the doctor advised and started watching what she was eating and exercising. She ended up having major complications during her pregnancy and was on bed rest for a long time and ended up having a preterm baby. She was just pushing it too hard and too stressed about the numbers on the scale.
I truly believe that YOU KNOW your body better and have better intuition than your doctor does.
Of course, if there are medical issues arising, like high blood pressure etc. then yes, do your best to take your doctors advice, but if you are already trying your best to do all you can to eat healthy, exercise, and your weight is climbing, then trust that this is just how your body carries your precious baby.
With all that said it can go for not gaining enough weight as well.
I had a nurse practitioner see me once for one of my appointments with my twins and she was concerned about me not gaining enough and advised me to eat more fatty foods, like ice cream, whole milk, and donuts. No serious complications arose because of this, but I did take her advise and started eating some of those things a little more often than I usually would, and I just felt crappier because of it. My heartburn got worse, I felt more fatigued, and just felt yucky and I still didn’t gain from it.
Keep the mindset that your body changes a lot during pregnancy and there’s nothing you can do about it. You gain weight, you get stretch marks, your hips expand, your breasts get bigger and stretched out. You’re body will not be the exact same way it was prior to having your babies. You honestly may feel like a stranger in your own body at times; but think of the positive; think of the beautiful blessing that you will receive from all this. It’s a magnificent transformation into becoming a mother.
So, love the new you! Be grateful to have a body that is capable of bringing a tiny person into this world, it truly is amazing!