I was 8 weeks pregnant when I found I was pregnant with twins. Not a lot of people are lucky enough to find out that early on. Some people don’t find out until their first ultrasound at 20 weeks. So, I feel very fortunate to have known so early on.
I had a miscarriage prior (for my miscarriage story go HERE), so my OBGYN wanted to do an ultrasound, that’s how we knew so soon. We were talking about getting to the hospital early enough this time around to be able to get an epidural, because my last baby she delivered within twenty minutes of me arriving at the hospital.
My little three-year-old daughter was sitting quietly on a chair in the corner of the room playing a game on my phone.
As my doctor was putting information into the computer I remember feeling so nervous. I was so worried that something would be wrong, or there wouldn’t be a heartbeat. I was already so hesitant going into this pregnancy because of miscarrying with my last one.
As she placed the ultrasound wand on my belly she said, “Ok let’s look at this baby” a few moments passed, “actually, two babies! You’re having TWINS!”
I looked at her with my BIG shock eyes and said, “SHUT UP!” Yep! I told my doctor to shut up! OOPS!
She started laughing and said, “Yep! Two babies!”
My daughter started laughing and said, “Not two babies. One baby.”
It is a moment I will never forget! I sat and looked at the ultrasound, to see two teeny, tiny babies on the screen…there were no words…TWINS! I couldn’t believe it!
She said, “Well, you don’t have to worry about not getting here in time for an epidural because most twin pregnancies are induced. We have a lot to talk about now, because twins change everything.”
This was so unexpected and such BIG news to wrap my head around.
My appointment lasted way longer than it should have. It ended up being 1 ½ hours. I had to talk to my doctor about a lot of things, then schedule all these appointments, I had to get my blood drawn, and speak with the billing department. My head was spinning. All of this was happening so fast and my husband doesn’t even know yet.
I had to figure out a way to tell him. I had 1 ½ hours to teach my three-year-old to tell him when she sees him, “mommy’s having two babies.” She was finally getting it down and it was absolutely adorable.
My husband works right across the street from the hospital. We stopped by and he came out to the car to talk to us. I asked my daughter if she had anything she wanted to tell daddy. She said, “Look at my pretty, painted nails.”
Well, that backfired. I kept trying to help remind her what she had to tell him, but she couldn’t remember. I showed him the ultrasound picture instead, thinking he’d realize there were two babies, but he sat and stared at it awhile and said, “I’m not ultrasound smart. What am I looking for?”
I said, “Mommy’s having two babies!”
Then my daughter chimed in, “Mommy’s having two babies, daddy!” She was a little late. Haha!
My husband kept saying, NO, over and over again. Then he sat and stared for a bit! It was pretty great!
I wish I could say the SHOCK of finding out you’re having TWINS wears off, but it really doesn’t. There is a type of denial that hangs over your head until you hold them both in your arms, that’s when the reality really sinks in.
There are moments even now, 18 months later I find myself not believing there’s two of them, it’s incredible! I am beyond grateful to be so trusted to raise two at the same time.
Ok, sorry for rambling on about my experience!
HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO HELP THIS ALL SINK IN
1. BREATHE! JUST BREATHE!
2. DON’T PANIC! Don’t start panicking about all the things you’re going to need, you have to do, how much it’ll cost…etc…LIVE IN THE MOMENT! Don’t skip so far ahead, you have time, so slow down.
3. Talk about your feelings. ALL OF THEM POSITVE OR NEGATIVE. It’s ok to feel negative feelings about this. It’s a scary and overwhelming thing to imagine. Two babies, two toddlers, two children, two teens! That’s a lot to take in. So, express what you’re thinking and feeling.
4. If you found out early on like me then make a list of things you need to take care of (example: health insurance. For a good list to follow after finding out you’re pregnant go HERE.)
5. This is the most important one of them all! PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU CAN DO THIS! Yes, twins are scary, and it can be hard, but it’s doable. You’re going to get so much input from so many people and to be honest most of it isn’t uplifting, it’s discouraging. DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM! YOU CAN DO THIS!
6. Just a heads up! This journey you’re about to embark upon is going to be an up and down emotional rollercoaster ride. Every pregnancy is unpredictable, but a pregnancy with multiples is so much more unpredictable. You need a good support system and doctors you COMPLETELY TRUST!
7. Have faith! Have faith in God, yourself, your doctors, and your babies.
You’re going to do GREAT! YOU were blessed with two miracles instead of one, so embrace this challenge and LOVE it!