*Please note that I am not a doctor or nurse. I have no medical background. This is all information that I have read on my own or have experienced personally with my own doctors.*
After my miscarriage a couple of years ago I researched a lot about miscarriages (for my story you can go HERE.) It was hard for me to understand why this was happening, I like to have answers to my questions so it helped me a lot to learn more about this topic. All of this information in this post I already knew, but I got a lot of this information from THIS WEBSITE to make sure my brain was up to date and that I was getting the information correct.
A Miscarriage is when you lose a baby during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy. More than 80% of miscarriages happen during the first trimester. Your chances drop drastically once you’ve hit that 13th week mark, but it is still possible to miscarry after that. If you lose your baby after 20 weeks this is considered a still born.
WHAT CAN CAUSE A MISCARRIAGE
A lot of women blame themselves and think it’s something they’ve done to cause them to miscarry, but in most cases that’s not the reason. Miscarriages are not usually caused by exercise, physical activity, sex, or something you ate or drank.
The most common cause according to American Pregnancy Association (APA) is a chance genetic abnormality in the embryo.
SOME ISSUES THAT COULD CAUSE A MISCARRIAGE
- Chromosomal problems
- Hormonal imbalance
- Uterine problems
- Chronic illnesses
- Smoking, drinking, and/or use of drugs
- A bacteria called Listeria
- Infectious Diseases
- Maternal Trauma- car accident or bad fall
- Certain medications
- Conceiving over the age of 35
MOST COMMON MISCARRIAGE SYMPTOMS
- Pink mucus discharge
- Spotting– this can sometimes be common during early pregnancy, but it should never be considered “normal.” Any type of bleeding is a warning that something is going on and you should be examined by your OB.
- Heavy bleeding
- Passing blood clots and tissue
- Mild to severe cramping
- Pain in your lower back and abdomen
THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN DURING A MISCARRIAGE
The physical symptoms and process of a miscarriage can vary per person. These are the most common things that can happen.
You’ll start off by feeling crampy and may discover a pink mucus discharge, which could then turn into red spotting. Your bleeding may become heavier and your cramping may become stronger. You may experience lower back and abdominal pain as well.
You may also experience sharp pain in your pelvis area and it may shoot down your legs. This is all caused by contractions that are working to help pass the egg and contents of the uterus.
You may pass large blood clots and tissue, this may be scary, but know that it is normal and to be expected.
Do not ever use tampons or menstrual cups during this process; actually don’t insert anything into your vagina during this time, only use pads while bleeding.
OTHER THINGS THAT MAY HAPPEN WITH MISCARRYING
There is a possibility if you’re farther along (usually beyond 10 weeks), or your body is struggling at naturally releasing all the fetal tissue and you’re bleeding continues, or there is no heart beat at one of your visits and your body isn’t naturally causing you to miscarry, you may need a D&C (dilation and curettage.)
This is a surgical procedure that’s performed where they make you dilate (opening the cervix) and curettage (removing the contents of the uterus) by scrapping the uterine wall with a curette instrument or a suction curettage (also called a vacuum aspiration.)
If you are wanting/needing more details and information on D&C’s HERE is a good place to get that information.
There is also a chance you may be having an ectopic pregnancy. An ectopic pregnancy happens when a fertilized egg implants and grows outside the uterus.
Normally, a fertilized egg attaches to the lining of the uterus, but with an ectopic pregnancy this usually happens in a fallopian tube (tubal pregnancy.) It can also happen to other areas of the body, like the ovary, abdominal cavity or cervix.
With an ectopic pregnancy there is no way of the fertilized egg surviving and there is no way of saving it. If left untreated it could be life threatening.
For more information on ectopic pregnancies go HERE
CAN YOU STOP A MISCARRIAGE FROM HAPPENING?
Unfortunately, no, you can’t. Once a miscarriage has started there is no way of stopping it. You should always be seen by your OB when you have experienced a miscarriage though to make sure everything has been flushed out and is getting back to normal.
WHAT TO DO NOW THAT YOU’VE MISCARRIED
Your physician will usually advise you to take a pregnancy test 4 weeks after your miscarriage to make sure you get a negative pregnancy test and that your HCG level is back to where it needs to be.
After you miscarry you may be in a place where you don’t want to try and get pregnant again for a while or you may want to start trying again immediately, and it’s ok either way. Take all the time you need to heal.
Your doctor will recommend waiting a certain amount of time before trying to conceive again, usually two menstrual cycles. After that it’s your choice to decide whether you want to start trying again or not.
Be open with your spouse/partner on what you’re feeling about trying to get pregnant again. They will not understand exactly how you’re feeling and what you went through, but they lost a baby too so I’m sure they’re feeling more of the same things than you think. If not, try and explain to them the best you can.
Fear is a very normal feeling to have. What you went through was heartbreaking and scary. It is devastating, so to be fearful of it happening again is completely understandable.
Which brings us to this…
WHAT ARE THE CHANCES OF YOU MISCARRYING AGAIN?
The chances of miscarrying again are pretty low. Now, I don’t want to get your hopes up and it definitely depends on your circumstances, but according to the APA, 85% of women who have suffered a miscarriage will go on to have a healthy, full-term pregnancy afterward.
I truly hope you’re one of those 85%. I was! In fact, I got two for one after my miscarriage! Yep! TWINS!
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m so sorry you had to experience such a devastating moment in your life.
It’s a moment that will definitely stick with you forever and it will always sting and be sad. You will always wonder what if, but I promise you this moment will get easier over time.
When the time is right and you finally do get to hold your sweet baby in your arms; the loss of your other one will be a little easier, and that moment you snuggle and kiss your amazing miracle baby will be the best moment of your life!
It takes time. The baby you lost will be held in your heart forever and will always be with you! That baby is your angel baby now, and you’re its angel mother. You get to hold onto each other forever and it’ll never be forgotten!