Do you ever feel like the world is putting more and more pressure on us to keep our kids safe, healthy, and alive; or is it just me?
I really hope I am not alone in this, because if I am I’m going to get a ton of wrath for this post! Oops!
I feel like more than half of the articles/posts online are about health-related topics, whether it’s about fitness, dieting, supplements, natural ingredients, toxic ingredients…the list goes on. This is not a bad thing, in fact it is a very good thing to help people become more knowledgeable about these things and to encourage them to take better care of themselves. It can also cause a lot of people, stress, depression, anxiety, guilt, and fear.
For me, it’s one thing to worry about myself and take care of myself, but to put my children into it, now that’s a whole other story.
Of course, I love myself and want to keep myself healthy, but when you are a mother, you tend to put yourself on the back burner, far on the back burner and your kids come first.
If you put a post out there that has the words SAFE and KIDS in it, I am going to read to it! That’s all I ever want for my children is to be safe! I want my kids to live, long happy, healthy lives; and me as their mother that’s my responsibility to help them do so.
We all want what’s best for our children and that’s how so many companies reel us into buying their products.
I am the type of person if you tell me I am doing something that is harming my child then I will be sick to my stomach about it and do everything I can to make sure I am no longer doing that.
Realistically though, this isn’t possible for me to do and it gives me anxiety and literally has kept me up at night on multiple occasions.
I come across multiple posts out there about toxic ingredients we put on our children and ourselves daily. Shampoo, conditioner, body soap, hand soap, hairspray, sunscreen, lotion, hand sanitizer, laundry detergent, and even our clothes.
The posts go on to talk about the dangers of these things and how they can cause serious health effects to us and our children. The worst part of it all they say they can cause cancer.
AHHHHH!!! ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!!???? What do I even do with all this information. Am I seriously slowly killing myself and my children. I’m sick to my stomach just thinking about it.
After reading these posts my anxiety skyrockets and my mind tries to process everything I read.
Then, I start stressing over everything in my house and looking at their ingredients. EVERYTHING in my house has some toxic ingredient in them, if not more than one.
I started doing research on these toxic ingredients, because as they say you can’t believe everything you read on the internet. Well…turns out they are right (if the stuff I was reading was even true.) There are a lot of seriously toxic chemicals out there that we are using daily!
Now, my anger starts kicking in that the FDA will approve such horrible things to even be sold in stores. This one really bothers me! If these things are so toxic and harmful to us, then why on earth are they being sold? I trust that the things being sold in stores are safe and now I know they aren’t and haven’t been for years! GRRR!!!!
It really makes me wonder if the people who work for the FDA, all the ones who test products and actually understand the ingredients inside them and they know the true harm they can cause, if they even use these things on themselves?
Ok, so am I the only one that has been down this path more times than they can count? I sure hope not!
But the big question now is, what do we do about it? How do we handle all this new information? How do we help our anxiety and worry about hurting our children and ourselves?
I went the crazy route for awhile and started buying expensive hand soaps, lotions, hand sanitizers, laundry detergent, making my own household cleaners, and even then, I wasn’t sure if these were really “safe” for my family. Plus, they were outrageously expensive and putting financial burden on my family.
My husband had to have a little talk with me and I had an emotional break down over it all, because I’m truly terrified that I am harming my children by using these other products. I was freaking out because it wasn’t just the cosmetic products that were bad. It’s even our food we eat, even the vitamins we were taking (which I thought was supposed to keep us all healthy.) It seems like EVERYTHING we are surrounded by is toxic for us and is slowly killing us.
I know! I’m a little crazy, but like I said I would never want to ever do anything that would harm my family and now that I have read multiple articles, researched multiple ingredients and have become aware of this problem, it’s so hard for me to not do anything about it and continue forward using all these horrible things we are using.
He calmed me down and tried to bring logic back into the situation.
I would love more than anything to use TRUE, natural, organic foods and products in my home, but realistically and logically we can’t! WE CANNOT AFFORD IT!
We are doing the best we can with what we have been given, and that’s all we really can do.
There is so much pressure on us as parents as it is. We have to deal with all the “REAL LIFE” situations when it comes to marriage and family, then to add on that extra pressure of making sure every product and editable thing in our home is safe, it’s impossible to have to deal with.
I know all these posts are written to help us be aware and I do think it’s very important to be aware of these things, but it would just be so nice to not know; because now that I know it’s always in the back of my mind whenever I use sunscreen that isn’t made from minerals and natural ingredients, or anytime I don’t buy organic food, or every night I wash my daughters hair, I think about how I am possibly slowly killing my child. It’s terrible!
I wish I just lived in a naïve bubble where I know nothing that’s bad in this world and just went about my merry way.
I’m just getting tired of constantly being reminded of all these harmful toxins and what I’m doing wrong as a parent.
The second we step outside and breathe we are filling your body full of pollution and toxins. So, what now…don’t go outside?
All we can do is the best we can with the information that’s we’re given, because there is just no way to keep our houses a completely toxic free home, unless you have a lot of money.
God made our bodies strong and resilient to so many things for a reason. I am going to do what I can to help keep my family and me as healthy as possible, but I choose to continue to believe that God will do the rest.
Take baby steps. Start with easy things to replace in your home. My husband and I read an article on the dangers of plastic Tupperware and how heating it in the microwave can be dangerous. It talked about how even placing hot food in it to store can cause plastic to leak into your food.
So, my husband and I started slowly buying glass Tupperware to replace our plastic ones. We also stopped drinking from plastic water bottles on-a-daily-basis (we will every now and then if necessary.) We bought glass water bottles instead and stainless-steel ones for our children.
See, baby steps!
Parenting is hard enough without all these other obstacles thrown our way. Keep doing your best and make sure you feel good about what you’re doing. If you feel ok with using certain products or eating certain foods than by golly do it! Don’t let other people’s opinions and fears cloud your judgement on what you feel is best for you and your family.
Ok, my rant is over! Thanks for listening! I’m sorry for my passionate spill on more mom-guilt I have because of social media (for that post go HERE!)
If you are curious about learning more about toxic ingredients I am really not the person to ask. Haha! To be honest I don’t even know who to trust because I know a lot of people hide things in their products or don’t even list all their ingredients used. I do know that just because someone puts on their label “natural,” it doesn’t mean that it’s natural. I am not a scientist either, when I look at ingredients on a product all I see is gibberish.
This is a good WEBSITE to see a list of ingredients you should never use in products. I will be honest though it is very hard to find affordable products that don’t have some of these in their products. Beauty Counter from what i understand has TRUE non-toxic ingredients in their products, but they are way too expensive for my taste.
To see the top 10 most harmful ingredients to avoid go HERE
If you are wondering what products are safer than others go HERE. This is a great website that has tons of products on it and it tells you how toxic they are.