Congratulations mommy on your sweet bundle of joy!

You have sure been through a lot these past 9 months! Carrying that sweet baby, giving birth to it, now trying to heal on top of taking care of it, along with any other things that need your attention! I’m sure your body is completely exhausted.

There’s a lot happening in your life right now and I’m sure your first-priority is tending to your newborn baby, which means you’re probably putting yourself on the back burner, but you need to take care of yourself too!

Recovering after giving birth is not the most comfortable and glorious thing in the world, thank heavens for the beautiful distraction you get to snuggle with all day to numb some of the pain. 😊

Every delivery is different, and everyone experiences pain differently so please keep that in mind. I don’t know your exact circumstance, but I hope that these tips will help someone.

First off, you need to make sure you have good, heavy duty pads at home because once you leave the hospital you’re on your own. Absolutely no tampons or anything for that matter is allowed inside of you until after your 6-week appointment and your doctor gives you the ok.

Your heavy bleeding should only last up to two weeks, but you may still bleed up to 4-6 weeks postpartum.

Those mesh panties they use at the hospital are lifesavers, if you can somehow get some of those, that would be great! If not, I have always just bought regular underwear a size bigger than normal and they have worked just fine.

The three most important things you need to do for yourself before we get into everything else is:

  • SHOWER! I don’t know why but showering always makes you feel better.
  • EAT! Make sure you’re eating! You’re so busy and so exhausted and you honestly probably don’t feel great, so eating is the last thing on your mind, but eat, good, healthy food!
  • DRINK! Drink lots and lots of water!

Ok, now we can get into EVERYTHING else that comes along with giving birth.



You may have torn really bad or hardly at all, you may have needed an episiotomy, either way this means you had to get stitches.

There are four degrees of tearing, 1 being minor, 4 being severe. With my first born I tore at a 2. With my second I didn’t tear much at all, but still required stitches. Obviously the bigger the tear the more painful it will be, but regardless which size it is it’s still painful.

If you got an episiotomy (this is when your doctor makes an incision) you’ll definitely need to be stitched up. Every doctor is different when it comes to episiotomy’s some prefer to do them before you even show signs of possible tearing to better control it, others prefer you to tear because they feel it’ll heal better because it’s more natural. Either way, it doesn’t really matter you’ll still need stitches.

Stitches are no fun down there that’s for sure. When you walk, move, twist, bend, sit anything, your stitches pull, which causes burning and stinging.

  • Ice packs help a lot, make sure to put ice on it for the first 12 hours after you deliver. The nurses in postpartum usually make sure of this and help you, but really ice it as much as you can, even when you’re home.
  • Sitz baths- pour ½ cup of Epsom Salt (make sure it is pure magnesium sulfate with no perfumes) into a few inches of warm water. Have enough water in the tub to cover your bottom. Hang out there for a good 20 minutes. You can do this 3-4 times a day. I know it’s hard to find time to do this with a newborn, but it really helps a lot.
  • Avoid a deep, tub bath until 4-6 weeks postpartum.
  • If it hurts to sit, sit on top of a soft pillow, the extra padding can really help.
  • When you go pee use your peri-bottle to clean yourself up, DO NOT WIPE!
  • Before you poop make sure you are consistently taking your stool softener. If you are really worried about this take Miralax too if you want. I’m not going to lie pooping will hurt, especially if you were backed up before. Don’t hold it in though because then you’ll get even more backed up and it’ll hurt worse. Try not to strain yourself either. Use your peri-bottle to clean yourself up the best you can, then finish with wiping gently with Tucks pads (Witch Hazel pads.)
  • When you pee it will most likely burn; and your frequent peeing doesn’t magically stop because you’re no longer pregnant, so you’ll be peeing often. If you tore at a 3-4 you’ll definitely be feeling a burning sensation, I’m so sorry! If you experience this try peeing while using your peri-bottle from the hospital. When I say use while peeing, I mean squirt the water while you are peeing, it’ll dilute the pee so it won’t sting so much. Try peeing while showering too, weird, I know, but it really will feel better. Another thing you can do is squat over the toilet and lean far over, like almost putting your head on the floor and then go. The less pee you get on your stitches the better.
  • For the pain, keep up with your pain meds, Tylenol, Ibuprofen, whatever it is your doctor has prescribed for you to take.
  • If you have stairs try and stay on one floor as much as possible. Gather everything you need for the day and stay on that main floor so you’re not going up and down the stairs as often.
  • Rest lots and get the help you need. Recovering is hard because you have a baby now too, possibly even more children at home. You’re already exhausted from giving birth and now you’re up all hours of the night caring for your baby, so ask for help and sleep as often as you can. Your body needs rest to heal.



If you experience hemorrhoids (swollen and inflamed veins around the rectum), I’m so sorry! These little suckers seriously are the worst! They are painful, itchy, and annoying!

They will eventually go away on their own, but it’ll take time.

Here’s a list of things to help:

  • Ice packs
  • Tucks pads (Witch Hazel pads) are AMAZING for these! You can buy them at any pharmacy, you’ll probably come home with some from the hospital.
  • Hemorrhoid cream. These creams always burn me, but they do help the swelling. You’ll probably get some of this from the hospital as well.
  • Sitz baths- pour ½ cup of Epsom Salt (make sure it is pure magnesium sulfate with no perfumes) into a few inches of warm water. Have enough water in the tub to cover your bottom. Hang out there for a good 20 minutes. You can do this 3-4 times a day. I know it’s hard to find time to do this with a newborn, but it really helps a lot.
  • It’ll hurt when you poop. So, before you go keep taking stool softeners, and Miralax if needed. After you go use your peri-bottle to clean yourself the best you can. Wipe very gently with your Tucks pad.



Back pain is common after delivery and it may take a while for it to go away.

There can be a lot of contributing factors to this:

  • Getting an epidural can result to back pain. The area you received your epidural may be tender for quite some time. You can also experience shooting pains in your back from it.
  • Using muscles during delivery you haven’t used before can cause your back to ache.
  • Your uterus stretching out during pregnancy and now returning to its normal state can put pressure on your back.
  • Exhaustion and stress from taking care of a newborn
  • Poor posture from holding your baby, breastfeeding, standing or sitting a lot
  • Rapid weight gain and loss
  • Your hormones can loosen your joints and ligaments causing aches and pains
  • Your hips stretching from pregnancy causing your body to be out of alignment



  • Hot and cold compresses can help
  • Small, easy stretches
  • Gentle exercise, like walking
  • Pay attention to your posture and correct it when it’s not right
  • Sleep in a recliner if needed for a while
  • Make sure you position yourself properly while nursing and are comfortable
  • Go get a massage



If you lost a lot of blood during delivery or even had to get a blood transfusion or multiple blood transfusions than you are going to feel pretty darn crappy.

When I had my first child I lost a lot of blood. I was so close to needing a blood transfusion; but didn’t end up getting one.

I was showering at the hospital the day after I had my baby. I started feeling faintish, I turned off the shower and called my husband into the bathroom. He came in and I said, “pull that cord” while pointing over to the emergency pull cord and I passed out in his arms.

When I woke up there were 4 nurses surrounding me and I was so embarrassed because I was butt naked on the bathroom floor.

So, you may experience faintness, dizziness, paleness, nausea, fatigue, loss of energy, you may even feel sick to your stomach.

If this is the case I would not feel comfortable being left alone for at least the first day or two after arriving home from the hospital. I would not walk while holding your baby. I would take all precautions necessary to keep you and your baby safe until you are feeling a little bit better.

Keep up with your Iron medication! Make sure your diet is high in iron.

Rest lots! Ask for help! Get all the help you need because your body needs to recover.

You’ll start feeling a lot better after a week or so.

If you are one of the lucky ones who don’t tear, get an episiotomy, hemorrhoids or blood transfusion/blood loss than you are on a happier road to recovery!

You’ll still have to heal, you did just have a baby, but your healing process will be much quicker.

Keep up with your pain meds (whatever was prescribed.) Sitz baths will be your friend. Keep up with stool softeners as well. Pretty much everything that’s mentioned above in the Tearing, Episiotomy, & Stitches section can give you good pointers, even if you didn’t tear or get an episiotomy.

3 weeks postpartum you should start to feel a lot better! Pretty much back to your normal self, depending on your situation. If you tore at a 3 or 4 then you may not feel completely great until about 5 weeks.

The rest of your healing will just take time. Give yourself a good 6 weeks until you’re completely healed, but don’t do anything (exercise, sex, anything) until you have your 6-week check-up with your physician and they give you the go ahead. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Walking is really good for you, it’ll help you heal quicker and make you feel better, don’t over do it though. Drink lots of water as well, it’ll help you with your constipation, breastmilk supply, and just make you feel better.

I truly believe that healing from a natural vaginal birth compared to an epidural vaginal birth is so much faster and smoother.

I don’t know if it was just my experience, but I felt my natural birth recovery was way easier than my epidural one.

It is hard to know if it was the actual birth situation that played a big part in it or other factors.

For instance, my natural birth was my second child, I didn’t have to push as long so I didn’t have hemorrhoids, I didn’t tear anywhere near as bad as I did with my first.  I didn’t lose as much blood.

Pretty much the entire situation was different. So, I’m sure that had a big role to play in it all, but I have heard many women say that their natural birth recoveries were a lot quicker and easier. So, I am not sure, but I’ll take it!

Now, go enjoy that baby and good luck with your recovery! You’ll be all healed before you know it!


Vaginal deliveries can be pretty painful and hard to recover from sometimes. Here is a list of things to help you heal quicker.


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